Tag: wayne dyer

  • Turn Your Struggles, Dislikes, and Adversities Into Gifts

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    I have size 9 double wide feet.

    For many years while growing up, I hated my feet. I dreaded going shoe shopping as nothing ever fit. I always had to “break in” shoes. This meant enduring a painful fit until the leather finally (hopefully!) loosened up. High heels were a nightmare because the wide fit usually meant my heels would swim in the back. I learned to shuffle along in heels–not a graceful site at formal events.

    When I first returned to barefooting, one of the World Champs took one look at my feet and said, “Those aren’t feet–those are flippers!”

    At first, the old feelings of embarrassment began to creep up, but then I thought, wait a minute, that’s an ASSET in this sport!

    The other World Champ later told me, “Your feet are good for backwards barefooting.”

    He was right. I’m much more comfortable barefooting backwards on one foot than going forwards. For many barefoot skiers, it’s the other way around.

    I’m sharing this to challenge you to reframe your struggles, dislikes, and adversities into gifts.

    How can you reframe something to see it in a positive way? Look for the blessing. Change your story. Create new thoughts around your challenges.

    Wayne Dyer said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

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  • Sunsets, Synchronicity, and Beaches

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    The graffiti threw us for a loop as we drove closer and closer to our hotel on Venice Beach. Joe and I expressed some apprehension about the area. I had picked the Venice Beach Suites out of the blue–the ratings were good, the price was reasonable, and the hotel was on a beach known for great sunsets.  For our 25th anniversary, we wanted to watch a sunset on the beach. From a quick look around, we discovered it was also known for a “high” lifestyle.  We debated whether to move to a hotel in Santa Monica. After some discussion, we decided to stay.

    “There must be a reason why we ended up here,” I said.

    Why in the world had my intuition lead me to pick this hotel? I had reviewed several hotels, received recommendations for Santa Monica hotels from friends–and here we were–in an area more suited for the casual, freewheeling lifestyle.

    “It’s getting late,” Joe said. “Let’s make the best of it.”

    The 100-year old hotel was charming. The staff was friendly and welcoming. After we unloaded our luggage, we took off to explore the ocean walk. The energy was high (pun intended, as it truly was high, based on the marihuana we smelled here and there.) and color and movement were everywhere. A young man came bounding up, complimented me on how “fine” I looked and attempted to sell me a CD. The sun was beginning to lower, so Joe and I grabbed some beach chairs from the hotel and took off to watch the sunset.

    It was beautiful.

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    Just as the last of the light began to fade, a man walked up to us.

    “Hi! I’m sorry to bother you but I saw you taking pictures and I don’t have my phone with me. I wonder if you could send me some?”

    We were happy to share the photos. Francis was a psychotherapist from Boston. He was out visiting friends. Spirituality, theology, and yoga came up in conversation. We told him we were celebrating our upcoming 25th anniversary.

    When we arrived back at the hotel, we returned the beach chairs and struck up a conversation with Matt, the hotel manager. He gave us some history and showed us pictures of the renovation. Just as we were about to head up to our room, a woman breezed in. As she put down her luggage, I spied a bright blue bag with the words, “I Can Do It.”

    “Were you at the Wayne Dyer event in Pasadena Friday night?” I asked.

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    “I was! I think I saw you there!” she said.

    Beverly came from London to attend the weekend event to explore her purpose and future. It was the perfect time for her, as she was no longer working and she was seeking clarity and meaning for her next step. We laughed at the synchronicity that brought us all to the same place. After all, what are the chances of three people among 3000 attendees ending up at the same hotel miles away from the event, at the exact same moment, with one arriving and the other leaving?

    Wayne Dyer talks about moments of synchronicity in his new book, which is part memoir, “I Can See Clearly Now:”

    “If it excites you, the very presence of that inner excitement is all the evidence you need to remind you that you’re aligned with your true essence. When you are following your bliss, you are most amenable to receiving guidance from the spiritual realm. This is called synchronicity a state in which you almost feel as if you are in a collaborative arrangement with fate.”

    When we arrived back into our room, a text from Francis popped up. As I read his text, suddenly all the dots of the journey connected. He sent us a beautiful poem about marriage:

    A Blessing For Marriage

    As spring unfolds the dream of the earth,

    May you bring each other’s hearts to birth.

    As the ocean finds calm in view of land,

    May you love the gaze of each other’s mind.

    As the wind arises free and wild,

    May nothing negative control your lives.

    As kindly as moonlight might search the dark,

    So gentle may you be when light grows scarce.

    As surprised as the silence that music opens,

    May your words for each other be touched with reverence.

    As warmly as the air draws in the light,

    May you welcome each other’s every gift.

    As elegant as dream absorbing the night,

    May sleep find you clear of anger and hurt.

    As twilight harvests all the day’s color,

    May love bring you home to each other.

    – John O’Donohue

    Every day, I’m learning to trust God on this journey of life and to believe that each step of the path is exactly where I’m supposed to be.

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  • When You Hit a Major Slump

    Regular readers of this blog will probably notice it’s been quite some time since I blogged here.  This has been one long, dragged-out winter in more ways than one. My normal, “energy on spin cycle” has hit an “off” button. I feel as if life is moving in slow motion. When that happens, I know it’s a time of transition and a time of growth. It’s a time for me to pull back and reflect on what really matters.

    The longer I took to get back to blogging, the harder it became to find the energy, drive, and the resolve to get back into it. It was the same with my fitness routine–I had stopped working out and it was showing. So this morning, I got myself off my duff and marched to the gym. Action is the first step. Always. No matter how small of a step it is, it’s a step in a forward direction. That’s why I’m finally pounding out this blog post–because I needed to take some action in the right direction. So I’m throwing my thoughts out in random fashion– and this could very well turn out to be one of the most unpolished blog posts ever.

    But still, “relentless forward motion” as my friend Adam Fitzgerald always tells me.  He should know–he does ultramarathons.

    Whenever I’m in a major slump, it’s all too easy to pull away from people as well. It’s a slippery slope–of getting into the old bad habits of negative thinking and letting the good stuff slide. So today, I thought about some of the people who have touched my life and I haven’t heard from them in a while. I spotted Lorelle Van Fossen in my chat list and fired off a greeting. We ended up having a wonderful chat–what a great way to launch out of a slump! If you haven’t met Lorelle, she’s the WordPress Blogging Queen. If you’re an author, take note of her blog post on WordPress for Writers.

    On Twitter, I came across an article by Tony Robbins, Career Curveballs. This little piece caught my eye: “I think part of what has guided me is the belief that life is not happening to us, but rather it’s always happening for us. It’s our job to find the perfection in it all. Even in our darkest times we are able to find the seed of our future greatness if we look. Everything happens for a reason. Yes, even problems are gifts. Perhaps God’s delays are not God’s denials.”

    So this slump I’m in, I’m going to see it as a mere delay, the “downtime” that defines the happier, smoother moments of life. It’s the space in life that makes the joyful times even more joyful. I have to continue to trust the passion deep within me and know that it will guide me through the days ahead. Like Wayne Dyer says, “It’s the space between notes that makes the music. You must take the time to become silent each day and enter that rapturous space between your thoughts.” 

     

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