Category: People Living Passionately

  • Old Age–It’s a State of Mind

     

    Every muscle ached when I sat down in the plane for the flight home. I had just left the World Barefoot Center in Winter Haven, Florida, where I spent a few days barefoot water skiing.

    “What happened to your eye?” my son asked when he picked me up at Midway airport.

     “Ah, I fell backwards and popped a blood vessel,” I explained.

    I was also sporting a colorful collection of bruises dotting my body and a swollen tongue.

    At the age of 44, I took up the extreme sport of barefooting again–more than 25 years after becoming deaf from a fall.  I spent three days in a boat with three other gals, but at age 45, I was the youngest one there. Kim Taylor is 48, Claudia Landon is 58– and at 68 years of age, Judy Myers is the world’s oldest female competitive barefoot water skier.

    “Suck it up,” Judy told me when I dared to complain about my aching body on the second day. When I watch her on the water–I find it hard to believe that this woman is almost seventy years old. Her nickname is the “Old Lady,” but she skims on the water– backwards, forwards and on one foot. Even when she falls at 36 mph, there’s a smile on her face when she surfaces.

      I’m thankful I met Judy– because she changed my life and gave me a whole new way to look forward to the years ahead. She smashes the stereotypes of what it means to grow older– reminding me that “old age” is nothing but a state of mind. As we add more candles to the birthday cake each year, it seems like it’s all too easy to buy into the notion that we are supposed to slow down and become more careful as we age. We are often bombarded with messages that perpetuate the stereotypes of aging, or what I call the “I’m-too-old-to-do-that” syndrome. Instead of accepting the status quo, why not go out and be the first person to shatter the age myth?

    Take Jim Boyette, for example. He took up barefoot water skiing at the age of 45 and began to compete in barefoot tournaments. Every single year, he shows up at the Barefoot Nationals and has not missed a tournament since he started in 1978. That’s right– do the math– Jim is 83 years old and still competes in an extreme sport. And to top it off, Jim has Charcot Marie Tooth disease– which atrophies his feet and arms, but he doesn’t let that stop him on the water. As Samuel Ullman once said, “Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.”

    Published in the Chicago Tribune, May 2011

  • Why Everyone Should Write Their Own Obituary

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    Emily Phillips photo by Bonnie Upright

     

    Twenty nine days.

    That’s all the time Emily Phillips had left after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Twenty nine days to hug her family and friends. To forgive. To reflect back on life and all the lessons and memorable moments.

    Emily went to work and penned her own obituary. She must have been quite the sassy, funny lady, because after reading every word, I wished I could have met her. No doubt she left a big hole in the hearts of people who knew her, but her obituary went viral and touch millions (yes, millions!)

    Toward the end of her obituary, Emily summed up her life:

    So…I was born; I blinked; and it was over.

     

     

    So this had me thinking this morning–every one of us should write our own obituaries. Perhaps if we faced the final days of our lives in the middle of NOW, we would cherish every moment instead of throwing it away. Perhaps we would reach out and say the loving words that others need to hear. Perhaps we would design the next days and hopefully years of our lives in a much different way than we are slodging through today.

    No buildings named after me; no monuments erected in my honor.
    But I DID have the chance to know and love each and every friend as well as all my family members. How much more blessed can a person be? 

    We are indeed blessed, but sometimes we forget. Sometimes we get wrapped up in issues that won’t have an impact ten minutes, much less ten months, later.

    So for a few minutes today, write out your obituary. How do you want to be remembered? What impact do you want to leave behind with your loved ones? What is your purpose, your gifts, your skills…and how did you share them with the world?

    If an obituary is just too much, you can do your 100th birthday party speech in the same way.

    At any point, you can change your path, change your thoughts, and change your words so that your obituary or 100th birthday reflects the life you truly want to live. Then go out and live it.

    So in the end, remember…do your best, follow your arrow, and make something amazing out of your life. Oh, and never stop smiling.
    If you want to, you can look for me in the evening sunset or with the earliest spring daffodils or amongst the flitting and fluttering butterflies. You know I’ll be there in one form or another. Of course that will probably comfort some while antagonizing others, but you know me…it’s what I do.
    I’ll leave you with this…please don’t cry because I’m gone; instead be happy that I was here. (Or maybe you can cry a little bit. After all, I have passed away).
    Today I am happy and I am dancing. Probably naked.
    Love you forever.
    Emily

    Emily Phillips Obituary

  • Inspiring Mom Bloggers Virtual Summit: 21 Inspiring Interviews

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    As a mom of three kids, I often find myself trying to juggle 20 things while typing a text and cooking dinner–all at once! And oh hey–look, a kite! No, wait, make that a squirrel flying a kite!

    If you find yourself juggling parenthood and you’ve lost yourself in the process, then you need to sign up for the Inspiring Mom Bloggers Summit!

    I am honored to have been chosen by the summit host, Elayna Fernandez ~ The Positive MOM, to be able to share my journey from pain to passion, give some insider tips on unwrapping your own passion, and inspire you to live a life of fun and joy! I met Elayna at a Passion Test training and I’ve been completely inspired by her journey–Elayna built her business as a single mom and rose to incredible success. She is now married to an amazing fellow and she helps others with their entrepreneurial dreams.

    On this summit, you will also hear 20 of the most inspiring moms in the blogosphere share their stories and how they overcame obstacles in their way and turned their pain into their purpose.

    I know that when you sign up for the Inspiring Mom Bloggers summit you will laugh, cry, and learn from all the inspiring, motivating, and uplifting messages that will be shared and that many lives will be touched.

    This summit starts January 5th and there will be a new speaker each day sharing their trials and triumphs with balancing mompreneurship, motherhood and everything in between! Topics include Balance, Finances, Conquering Fears, Health, Fitness, and Weight, Empowering Thoughts and Words, Marriage and Relationships, Grief,  Single Motherhood, Postpartum Depression, Unexpected Life Changes, Handling a Miscarriage, Healing Autism, Finding Joy in Physical Pain, Overcoming Obstacles, No Regrets SAHM, Overcoming Abuse, Homeschooling Expectations, and much more!

    There is NO COST for this online summit. Transcripts will be available. You can join the summit here: Yes, count me in! 

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  • In Praise of Vulnerability

    I was on the phone with a Tony Robbin’s coach, a 30-minute session that I received as gift during the launch of Tony’s new book, Money: Master the Game, 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom.  (I’m halfway through the book and have learned more about money than anything I’ve ever read before.)

    After going over the questionnaire I had filled out earlier and talking about my goals, the coach asked me a question. “Do you have a fear of being vulnerable?”

    At first, I didn’t want to answer that question with the truth. The strong, confident part of me wanted to say, “Oh no, I’m open and vulnerable all the time. For crying out loud, I teach other people to open up and reveal the beautiful, imperfect parts of themselves!”

    But the raw, dig-down, lets-get-real part of me knew the answer. I was afraid to be vulnerable. To open up. To allow hurt, disappointment, and anger to creep in, and heck, bust out. To acknowledge the areas where I’ve failed, said the wrong thing, made the wrong decisions, fell apart, or generally screwed up. Vulnerability is a scary thing.

    Yet, vulnerability is what connects us on another level. The more vulnerable we are, the more human we are. The more we show the inner depths of our being, the more we connect with others. In less than 30 minutes, this coach dug deep inside and came up with the reason I was dragging my feet on several things. The good news: fear of being vulnerable is simply a mindset. And a mindset, as we all know, is something we can change in an instant. A slight shift in perspective can change an outcome.

    I came across this quote from Brene’ Brown that really resonated with me:

    The truth is: Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.

    Brene goes into depth about the power of vulnerability in her TED talk. . And in the quote above, Brene expands on it as she wraps up her talk:

    This is what I have found: to let ourselves be seen,deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there’s no guarantee — and that’s really hard, and I can tell you as a parent, that’s excruciatingly difficult — to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we’re wondering, “Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?” just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, “I’m just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I’m alive.” And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we’re enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, “I’m enough,” then we stop screaming and start listening, we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.

    It’s well worth the watch!

  • The Power of She: Don’t Put A Limit on What You Can Do

     

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    Five years ago, my husband Joe sent me a link that forever changed my life. It was a TODAY Show segment featuring Judy Myers, a 66-year-old barefoot water skier from California.

    Barefoot Water Skier is Landing on her Feet at 66

    Judy inspired me to get back on the water and dive back into my passion for barefoot water skiing. The “Old Lady” taught me many lessons on and off the water, including the biggest one of all: don’t put a limit on what you can do. Age really truly is a number–and you can choose to grow bolder instead of older.

    Catch Judy’s story (and mine) on “The Power of She” on Headline News:

    Making a Splash: Senior Barefooter, 71, Inspires

    Transcript included.

  • On Being Positively Positive

     

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    A few months back, Eric Handler from Positively Positive reached out and asked if I would write a guest post for Positively Positive.  The site is filled with wonderful posts that are raw, authentic, and real–offering advice and tips to focus on the positive side of life. Positively Positive features authors such as Seth Godin (Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us), Gretchen Rubin (The Happiness Project), and Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul books).

    It is an honor to contribute. No sooner did my post go up and my daughter informed me that my title was grammatically incorrect.  Oh well. The perfect imperfection of being human.

    How the Worst Thing in My Life Became a Blessing Instead

  • Barefoot Water Skiing Featured in DevinSuperTramp Video

    Barefoot water skiing goes mainstream in the latest video by Devin Graham, aka DevinSuperTramp. Devin is a guy who truly is living a passionate life doing what he really loves, capturing action on film. Here’s more of Devin’s story: DevinSuperTramp Behind the Scenes Interview.

    The video features the World Barefoot Center crew, Keith St. Onge (co-author of Gliding Soles), David Small, Ben Groen, and Keith’s wife, Lauren. Take a moment to watch barefoot water skiing captured every which way:

    Barefoot Skiing Behind an Airplane

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    I love the behind the scenes video (no captions yet). It’s fun to watch Devin and Todd Nyman from Vooray barefoot water ski for the first time.

    Behind the Scenes Barefoot Skiing with Vooray

    In less than 24 hours, the video captured over 100,000 views and it’s just now making its way across the web:

    Barefoot Water Skiing Behind a Plane is Too Extreme for Words – Mashable

    DevinSuperTramp’s Latest Video, Barefoot Skiing Behind Airplane

    Devin’s Video Captures the Unusual

    Man Tethered to an Airplane Casually Water Skis

    Well That’s One Way to Do It – Daily Mail UK

    Barefoot Water Skiers Get Towed by Airplane

    Water Skiing Behind and Airplane and Other Insane Tricks – Fox News 13

  • The Growing Bolder Lifestyle

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    Back in 2011, I discovered an awesome website called Growing Bolder.  I stumbled upon the Growing Bolder segment on Banana George while doing some research for the Gliding Soles, Lessons from a Life on Water book I was writing at the time. “It’s not about age, it’s about attitude,” was the Growing Bolder tagline.  “It’s an attitude. A mission. A passion. A team of people who believe in the power of hope, inspiration and possibility.”  The site was filled with one inspiring story after another featuring people living passionate lives.  Marc Middleton, the founder and CEO, left his job as a reporter in 2006 to form Bolder Media Group.  He was tired of constantly reporting news that was physically, emotionally, and mentally draining day after day.

    Intrigued, energized, and inspired by all the stories, I connected with Bill Shafer, the Executive Vice President and introduced myself.  Like Marc, Bill also left his job as a reporter and shared the same mission and vision of creating positive, uplifting content.  I boldly invited Bill and his crew to come to the World Barefoot Center. We ended up having a great time together and Growing Bolder produced two segments which were shown on PBS stations:

    A Mom Who Walks on Water

    The Barefoot Competitor

    I loved the mission and vision of Growing Bolder so much that I told Bill, “I want to come and work for Growing Bolder.”

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    And now I’m the lucky one. I recently joined the Growing Bolder Blogging team. I get to share inspirational stories, thoughts, and ramblings with a passionate group of Growing Bolder Elite Bloggers.  Of course, it was only fitting that I introduced Judy Myers, The Barefoot Competitor, in my first blog post.  Four years ago, Judy was pivotal in helping me to unwrap my passion for barefoot water skiing again. I want to pay it forward in encouraging others to pursue their passions, no matter the age.

    If you’re at a point in your life where you’ve become stuck in the “same old, same old” routine, I invite you to come over to Growing Bolder and hang out with some truly amazing people, because as Jim Rohn says, “You’re the average of the five people you hang out with.”   Get a daily dose of passion on the Growing Bolder Facebook page.  Adopt the Growing Bolder lifestyle.  You don’t have to settle for growing older. Grow bolder instead.

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  • MORE Magazine Article Inspires Passion

    Judith Swankoski reached out and connected with me via Facebook to share her thoughts about my story which appeared in MORE magazine. I didn’t discover her message until recently. Judith went on a passionate adventure of her own so I asked her to share her journey:

     

    As often happens when you move toward your heart’s desire, situations and people appear in your path to help illuminate your way. Karen Putz appeared in my path in the form of her inspiring story in MORE Magazine.

    Reinvent Yourself After Misfortune

    After reading about Karen, I felt a renewed sense of enthusiasm about what is possible. She had rediscovered her passion! Now, how was I going to uncover mine?

    Sometimes you’re not sure what something is, but you know what it is not.

    Passion is not half. Of anything. It is not half a thought. Nor, half a feeling. It is not the emotion you feel when you spend time with a half a friend. Or, are half in love.

    Passion is what grabs you, hooks you and propels you forward with the firing of all the positive, life-affirming synapses in your body!

    Passion is how I recently found myself in Spain; stumbling down a mountain in the dark and rainy early morning hours on the eighth day (of 36) of my Camino. Ahead of me that day are 15 miles of hiking to my destination. Behind me are the Pyrenees I climbed across and an idea that had taken hold when I watched the film, “The Way.” http://www.theway-themovie.com/
    “The Way” is about the Camino de Santiago; a 500 mile “walk” across Spain.

    As the film ended and the credits rolled, I knew I would one day make the pilgrimage as thousands had for hundreds of years before me. How this was going to happen didn’t occur to me. Passion had grabbed hold! I remembered Karen Putz. Something she said kept resonating — “I didn’t know I had it in me to learn this at age 45.” “I’m 45”, I thought. “It’s not too late. I can do this!”

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    And two years later, here I was. Doing this. Which is how I found myself stumbling down a mountain in the rain.

    I slipped on a rock and skinned my knee. As I struggled to right myself with my pack on, I began to cry. It had been a physically demanding and emotional week and I was overtired and missing home. The rain was not a gentle rain and soon it was pouring. I cried harder. We were all under our rain gear though, so nobody noticed. I wondered why I cared if some stranger saw me crying. I wondered a lot of things as we trudged for hours through mud and farmland. Suddenly, I stopped. I had the familiar feeling that flooded me when I sat in that theater and watched “The Way.” “This is really happening,” I thought. “I am following my dream!” In that moment, I realized there was no place I would rather be. No place. Pure joy!

    Shortly after, the rain ended. It always does. A rainbow appeared and I walked in that direction. For days. Weeks. Finding my way.

    At home now, I often gaze down at the scar on my left knee and smile.

    Passion. Never settle for half.

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  • Let It Go– in American Sign Language

     

    For three hours, we stood in the freezing cold filming one take after another.  We took a few breaks huddling in the car trying to get warm.  All this for a music video.  The song is “Let It Go” from the movie, “Frozen.”

    No professional filming. No expert editing. Just two deaf girls signing their hearts out to music that they love. The two girls, Ren and Keely, have been together since they were six years old.   Here it is in all its perfect imperfections:

     

    More Ren and Keely music videos:  Ren and Keely on YouTube

    Follow them on Twitter: @renandkeely